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https://git.techniknews.net/MrTob/WetterstationServer/issues/11 With perhaps the exception of “Emmanuelle,” heterosexual pornography seems to be mostly about the objectification of women and the reduction of sexuality to the mechanics of getting one’s rocks off (yes – mostly focused on the male release). Masturbation often is similarly utilitarian – releasing some urgent sexual energy. So as a result, at least for me, pornography is limited in attraction and usefulness. As you note, Kat, real sex with real people is about so much more – it’s about the warmth, the tastes, the interplay of energy and affection, the sounds and smells, and ideally the love between you and your partner – none of which is available in pornography (well, maybe those fake sounds on the soundtrack.) I suppose one downside to pornography these days is not just unique to pornography – it’s endemic in the rest of our lives, too – and that’s the immediate access to vast amounts of information and stimulation. That’s the challenge – being able to control that firehose (to use an analogy that might be appropriate here) in a way that keeps one sane and human and in touch with what’s ultimately important, namely, living life with integrity, compassion and love. As for answering your questions, pornography is not a problem for my relationships, because it doesn’t factor in at all. And now that I am over 50, masturbation has waned as well – partly because of less desire for it, but also because of a desire to reserve that energy for making love with my partner. I compare that to my 20′s, when I would masturbate sometimes to take the edge off before lovemaking, so I could last longer when we got busy. Ah, to have the knowledge and desires of this stage of life, with the performance abilities of my 20′s! |
