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https://lms.netdevgroup.com/eportfolios/234/_/A_Good_Husbands_Habits Thanks for sharing. I am from a blended family…. only I’m the step mom who had the kids move in full time a year after I was married to their dad and then just over two years ago the biological mother by her own choice had me adopt them and then less than a year after that she passed away in a tragic, sudden motorcycle accident…. it’s been a strange, strange ride that’s for sure….. 🙂 REPLY T January 2, 2014 at 9:14 am The kids want to go to San Francisco soon. I hope to see you all! xxoo REPLY CCD December 31, 2013 at 7:06 am SGG sees the world differently from me, and I from her. We have some common ground, but I also know that fundamentally we will see the same situation with the kids in completely different ways. I also know that there are many solutions to problems, not just mine and not just hers. We have good friends that let us know when we are being childish and selfish…and stupid. I have learned, and it is hard to practice, that sometimes I have to let her do something her way and live with the outcome even when I think it can be avoided. I have had to learn to do the same thing with my son. In both cases I know that they are doing what they think is right, and often I find that I was the one that was wrong in the anticipated outcome. We both have different stress points and triggers. I sometimes don’t realize I’m doing something that will trigger some fear or reaction in SGG, and vice-versa with her. She said it best a couple of years ago when I had done something that really irritated her, “Its hard to get mad at you when I know you are trying to do the right thing.” That is a hard thing to grasp and often harder to accept, to know that the person that just triggered some deep seeded fear and emotion was in truth trying to help. And regardless of what she said, she still gets mad at me and me with her. |
